Julie de Ruijter

Psychologist, Holistic Coach & Yin Yoga teacher

"We can empower and support one another by belonging to a tribe or community in order to feel connected. We can rise together when we authentically share our stories and let go of the ego."

Julie is a single mother to a 5-year-old son Ben. In general, she feels very connected to not only mothers, but to every woman on this earth. She feels we are all mothers because we all nurture something.

She feels we experience a lot of pressure as women in this individualistic society. When we go way back to foraging hunter-gatherer tribes. Initially women were the caretakes to their children. And we still are because we simply evolutionary and biologically build like that. Despite men take more care of their kids nowadays as well, mothers now also want to shed light on other parts of ourselves, which she strongly supports! We want to explore our gifts and share that with others. We want to have a career, we want to have an interesting social life, we want to be a mother etc. Which means that we became a juggler who has to keep all the balls in the air and not willing to drop any. Is it really true that we can’t drop any? Eventually we feel caught by this ball play. And we don’t know anymore what our purpose in life is. It feels more like surviving instead of thriving.

Why? Because our lives take place in our heads which includes many limiting believes, stories that we started to create or have been told about how we should be as a woman, as a mother, as a wife, as a friend, as a sister, as a girl boss etc. We disconnect from our body, heart and soul where our intuition and the answers are. Therefore,Julie’s mission is to empower women to shift their lives from surviving to thriving by letting go of everything that held them back from a fulfilled life.

She does this by reconnecting the mind, body, heart and soul by combining a psychological background, yin yoga, breathwork, reiki and own experiences as a woman (single) mother. This enables you to let go of the stories and limiting beliefs you assume as the truth about yourself, so that you are eventually able reconnect to your true purpose and start to live a life in abundance and emotional freedom. You will feel empowered and a leader of your own life again! The bottom line is that we want to live a meaningful life.

Julie supports Motherheart as she feels nowadays loneliness is one of the unhealthiest things in the world, given we have a natural ‘need to belong’. She beliefs we can empower and support one another by belonging to a tribe or community in order to feel connected. We can rise together when we authentically share our stories and let go of the ego.

In times of fear her advice would be: Don’t be shy and ask for help! Maybe just someone who holds space and just listen can be very powerful and empowering. Share with likeminded friends/relatives, who feel you! And secondly turn inwards, don’t let yourself distracted by social media or something outside of you. Find the way back to yourself, your power by being by yourself in silence, breathe, a gentle yoga practice and get some sleep.

If she could tell her younger self something it would be: Trust your journey and dare to fail. Which stands for: First Attempt Is Learning. That’s the only way you grow as a person. Don’t be shy and be bold. Follow your heart. Don’t take yourself too seriously and sometimes just give the middle finger!

Meet Julie and her powerful work at She Hero